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Monthly Archive November 2019

The Waiting Place

by Rev. Elizabeth Rowley,
Spiritual Director
November 27, 2019

We’ve all experienced waiting, whether it be waiting for a plane, a bus, the mail, or an email.  Or waiting in line to pay, waiting for the coffee to brew, or the water to boil for tea.

Sometimes we’re waiting on mightier things, like getting the word about that job promotion or waiting to hear if the potential employer chose you.  Even more significant, waiting to hear back from the doctor about test results.

What do you do with yourself in those moments of waiting?  What monologue is occurring in the privacy of your mind?  Is it life-affirming, positive, and uplifting?  Or do your thoughts tend to go down the route of the worst-case scenario, or doom and gloom?

Regardless of the promotion, the new job, or the test results, it’s imperative that you like yourself amid your waiting.  The waiting will end, and whatever you’ve been waiting on will be what it will be.  Can you be gentle with yourself as you wait?  Gentle as one would be with a newborn baby child?  Can you wrap yourself in a blanket of love and know that God is with you right now and always?

Rather than allow impatience to consume you, consider the time of waiting as your opportunity to rest, just before things begin to pick up again.  You deserve this quality time of respite and rejuvenation.

When you pray, meditate, chant, do yoga, mudras, sing, or whatever your spiritual practice currently is, you are preparing yourself to receive.  You are making welcome all that you’ve been praying about.

Waiting is preparing.  It’s a great time to ask yourself: What’s trying to be activated in me at this time?  What belief is being embodied in me by me?

Let the waiting become a glorious, magnificent space of receptivity!  I’m reminded of an outfielder in baseball waiting for the batter to hit the ball to him.  How funny would it be if the outfielder started complaining about waiting and how tired he is of standing there.  He throws his glove down, and right at that moment, the batter hits the ball to him.  Unfortunately, he misses the catch because he wasn’t ready to receive it; he was too busy being impatient and complaining about waiting.  Then he must wait some more.

Live in a state of expecting your good.  Remember, the thoughts you focus on are making an impression in the quantum field of your reality.  What impression do you desire to leave?

To maintain a healthy attitude about waiting, remind yourself that you are being prepared to receive the great gifts that you’ve been praying over.  Take the time to rest and rejuvenate.  Know that everything is working out in Divine right order, in the right and perfect time.

Pretty soon, as Dr. Seuss wrote, “Somehow, you’ll escape all of that waiting and staying, you’ll find the bright places where boom bands are playing.”

Let the boom bands emerge.

And so it is.

What’s Your P.L.A.N.?

by Rev. Elizabeth Rowley,
Spiritual Director
November 13, 2019

Do you have a P.L.A.N.? A Positively Life-Affirming Narrative? It’s always good to have a P.L.A.N. to live from and pull up as needed. Years ago, I started what I call a brag book to cultivate my first P.L.A.N. In this book, I recorded every wonderful compliment and praise received.

Then whenever the critic, the doubter, the negative storyteller, or other conditioned aspects within would startup, I would refer to my brag book to remind myself of how others saw me. The compliments quickly canceled out the harmful noise, which freed me to think spiritually magnificent thoughts instead. As I began to believe those thoughts instead of the others, life became a vivid joy-filled reality.

Eventually, I began stringing the compliments together for one giant positive life-affirming narrative, which, when reading it aloud, made me feel light, giddy, joyous, and free. It’s a great way to begin writing a new story for yourself and your life. Often individuals are seduced by their own story of negativity and victimization. Then they retell that story to themselves, share it with their friends, talking about it so much that they believe it to be true. All the while contributing to their suffering.

There is an old Buddhist quote, which states: “Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.” This human existence is sometimes messy, and we will all experience pain at different times in our lives. I believe we are called to remember this statement in those times. “Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.”

Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, and Holocaust survivor Victor Frankl observed: “Between stimulus and response, there is space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.” Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional. How will you respond? Have a P.L.A.N.!

Everyone needs to have a P.L.A.N. I’m not speaking of a method for achieving an end, but instead, a positively life-affirming narrative. It’s helpful to have some empowering words you can turn to in your time of need, in those moments when you’re feeling less than 100% at the top of your game. As we approach Thanksgiving, it’s an ideal time to begin filling your spiritual bank account with gratitude, especially if you aren’t feeling it now.

Try this P.L.A.N. for gratitude on, let it transform you.

I’m grateful, thankful, and much obliged. My heart overflows in appreciation for all that is. I am gifted, shifted, and lifted. I’m well blessed, highly favored, and my cup runneth over. I lean into my good and say yes, bless, bless. I’m on the high side of awesome at the top of my game. I praise my life in the name of love. I give thanks for the abundant good all around me.  I’m on fire for Spirit and unafraid to show it. My words uplift, inspire and create. And oh yeah, I’ve lost a little weight. Suffering is optional. What’s your P.L.A.N.? You can borrow mine.

And so it is.

Letting Go

by Rev. Elizabeth Rowley,
Spiritual Director
October 30, 2019

It’s the time of year when I begin to feel a deeper connection with Spirit. After my birthday, just before the time change, as it begins to cool down, and the holidays rapidly approach. There’s an essence of family, connection, love, and generosity in the air. The palpable presence of the Great Mystery is right here in the midst of it. It calls us to go deeper to remember the Truth of who we are and who we came here to be.

It beckons us to release our grasp on that which no longer serves us; Just like the autumn leaves fall gently to the ground, painting the streets in a beautiful color, as they let go of their attachment to the tree. Spirit wants to decorate your life with technicolor beauty, will you allow it?  It wants to free you from limitation and lack and have you sparkle and flow in Divine prosperity and goodness. Will you let it? Yes!

If there’s something you’ve been holding on to, is it time to loosen your grip and let it go? Maybe there’s a story you’ve been telling yourself for far too long. Perhaps there are relationships that no longer contribute to your highest and greatest good. Maybe it’s time to stop beating yourself up over small stuff, or thinking you’re not good enough. You can get the letting go vibe going by releasing clothes and shoes you haven’t worn in a year.

As you do this, I invite you to invoke in your mind’s eye the image of an autumn leaf falling from a tree, see how it swirls and twirls through the air dancing to the ground – feel the liberation of releasing that which no longer serves you.

Often individuals are challenged in letting go because of fear of the unknown. The unknown is where infinite possibilities exist.

There are some things that we know, some we don’t know, and a vast amount we don’t know that we don’t know. In the letting go, we become available and receptive to the infinite realm of possibility which exists in that space of what we don’t know we don’t know. The Great Mystery is infinite in potentiality, unlimited in its generosity, and has birthed itself into existence as you so that it can know itself in a particular way.

While the unknown can be fearful, when you turn to the God of your understanding for assurance, validation, and guidance, it will not fail you. While you may not have the ability to articulate the next step, there is something within you that knows. Trust God, lean into it, let it guide you.

When tulips are cut and placed in a vase in your home, you’ll find they lean toward the light. Be like cut tulips and lean toward the light when you’re afraid of the unknown. It loves you exactly as you are, and it wouldn’t change one thing about you.

And so it is.

The Wings of a Hummingbird

by Rev. Elizabeth Rowley,
Spiritual Director
October 16, 2019

Have you ever stopped to appreciate the beauty of a hummingbird? They are fascinating the way they hover mid-air next to flowers and trees in their quest to find food.

The average North American hummingbird beats its wings 50 times per second, so quickly, the wings become invisible to the human eye. High-speed cameras can capture the wings. Even though we can’t see the wings, they are there.

Oneness is something we cannot see because we are individualized expressions of the Divine in different bodysuits. From the perspective of quantum mechanics, on the subatomic level, everything seen and unseen is energy in constant flux.

Albert Einstein observed, “Concerning matter, we have been all wrong. What we have called matter is energy, whose vibration has been so lowered as to be perceptible to the senses. There is no matter.”

His theory of special relativity e=m2 shows that energy equals mass times the speed of light squared. In other words, energy and mass are interchangeable; they are different forms of the same thing or two sides of the same coin.

As we grow spiritually, there is so much which is invisible to the human eye. We are beckoned by the Divine to trust and have faith in something which we cannot see.

The good we’re seeking is within us now. It’s already here. It’s everywhere present, and we just can’t see it. Maybe you’ve identified what you think you want or need to be happy, so you can’t see the overflowing wellspring of magnificent good right here in front of you, permeating the environment all around you.

There’s a great story I heard from a friend who visited a shaman in Africa. The shaman was working with a woman who was still psychically married to her past husbands. She had un-forgiveness in her heart and was operating from her unhealed, conditioned past.  As such, she was unable to see her soulmate, who was in her current circle of friends.

When Jesus said, “You have eyes and see not. You have ears and hear not,” he was saying that you only see your belief or your thoughts about reality, you don’t see reality. What you see is what’s passing through your awareness and call that real.

If there’s something you’ve been seeking to experience in your life and you think it’s not here, please consider that maybe it’s already here, but you just haven’t been able to see it because you’ve been looking for it from your conditioned past. Then do your inner work to raise your vibration, affirming your good, which is all around you. As you heal your past, you’ll begin to see with new eyes, the life you have imagined for yourself.

Accept that all of your needs are met; there is good for you, and you ought to have it; the Universe is conspiring for your highest good, and what you are seeking is also seeking you.

And so it is.